Attitudes That Inspire Growth – “I Get To” vs “I Have To”

October 30, 2020
in Blog

Does this scenario sound familiar?

On March 12, 2020, my boss called to inform me we would work from home until further notice.

On March 13, 2020, my wife was told schools would be closing and she would need to work from home. More changes followed. “You have to stay home, you have to wear a mask, you have to social distance, you have to, you have to, you have to!” I call this “I have to” mentality a “stinkin’ thinker”. This is when people tell themselves and others, over and over, “I have to do this, I have to do that, I don’t like this, I don’t like that”. It’s like they have a piece of Limburger cheese stuck under their nose. The whole world stinks and they’re intent on spreading the word!

Here is a simple one-word exchange you can adopt to keep your spirits up and facilitate personal growth for you and those around you. Simply change “I have to” to “I get to”. It can be especially handy in 2020 when we are all facing unique challenges. Choose to look at 2020 as a year of opportunity and growth. Instead of focusing on the negative changes, think “I get to work from home” or “I get to participate in a virtual meeting at work and with friends!”. Spin your work from home situation with, “I get to see my spouse working from home, I didn’t realize until now what he or she actually did and how good at it he or she is!”. Highlight lack of commute with “I get to help prepare dinner”. Find the positivity in virtual school –  “I get to help my child with their virtual schooling, my parents never had that opportunity!”

Make no mistake, 2020 has been a year of challenges, at home and at work. However, your attitude helps make your life and the lives of those around you either enjoyable or not so enjoyable. From my perspective, I really don’t want to know what a “stinkin’ thinker” is thinking, and I “get to” make that choice!

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